Monday, July 31, 2017

30 Days of Gratitude: Prompt 8

Happy Monday! I hope all of you had a splendid few days over the weekend of R&R. I felt so refreshed waking up this morning. I guess going to bed by 10pm will do wonders. Here's to the start of a new week with new challenges and opportunities. The weekly to-do list in my planner is filling up quickly with all things work and fun. Quick shout-out though, to my best friends who continue to support me, give me hugs and a shoulder to cry on, dish out loads of jokes and call me out when I'm not being my real me or if something is up. I love you all. So I had to change up the order of the prompts for this '30 Days of Gratitude' writing challenge I'm following, because today's scheduled prompt talks about a book I'm grateful for...and said book that I really wanted to pull lines from, is at my apartment. Stay tuned for that coming later this week. Therefore here's the substitute from a different date. And I think it's a pretty good one.

Day 8: What Abilities Are You Grateful For?

I take a ton of pride in the fact that I have the ability to forgive and love people for who they are. You cannot go about your everyday life holding grudges or containing inside you, these clouds of judgement and anger against people. You cannot grow and be a positive, strong person by living vicariously through past slumps and moments that brought you down. I'll be straight honest, up until maybe three or four years ago, I had the hardest time moving forward and away from the people that did or said things to bring me down, discourage or hurt me. Whether it be in situations between friends, relationships, family or the workplace. And gosh workplace politics can be horrendously violent at times. I used to let it bog on me, make me feel weak and worthless but then I started realizing that it was just a waste of time, energy and it was just annoying. I learned that you have to accept that that past baggage did in fact happen but also move forward and do everything in your waking power to forget it and stay fresh. I remember four years ago at my first job out of college, I worked for a manager who was almost on the daily, demeaning me and treating me like I was a useless spec of dust. It was incredibly unprofessional and rude, and there were so many days when I'd get home after commuting for two-hours from Chicago that I'd draft-up a two-weeks notice. It was such a toxic environment and it killed any kind of self-esteem and confidence I had. Those toxic vibes trickled into my personal life and started affecting everything outside of work. I was miserable and felt that way for a long time. It took me a few years to recover from that, but I realized that people make mistakes. Sometimes people act out of character. Everyone has done it at some point, including myself. One of my favorite quotes reads (there are a few variations) along the lines of "Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." This is so true. We all struggle with something internally and while some of it can be visibly seen and noticed, some of it stays buried deep inside you. I as a person remember that mindset constantly. I'm a person who will never judge someone as a result of something they're trying to recover from or fix.

I don't 'put up' with people. That's such a negative connotation. I hate that saying. Rather I proudly and tirelessly absorb, understand and love them for who they are. That's what I do. We're all different, we all have different quirks and we all have to love each other. There've been times over the past couple years I've been tremendously hurt by someone or faced some inexplicable form of betrayal. Times when I've had friends and family call me out and tell me to walk away, quit or cut it off. But that's not what I do. But the pain is temporary, only temporary because immediately once some rut or incident happens, I seek out the very best in someone when they're at their worst. And I can always find it, forgive and move forward. It may not be easy, and it may not be immediate, but that's what I always do. It's how you come out on top and become the bigger, better and stronger person. Always, always forgive. That's something I do that I'm grateful for and the people who appreciate and respect that I do this, I'm so grateful for you.

Cheers and have a great day!